Confessions of a Bad Mom

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If only Little Mochi was a girl…

When our child grows up and becomes a rug rat, a really bad rug rat, or joins a gang, or does drugs, or gets into other kinds of trouble, many of us moms tend to think it’s our parenting. Are we really bad parents? Or are they the byproduct of a bad surrounding? But then again, we can argue that it’s the parent’s responsibility to remove the child from the bad surrounding and the bad situation. We are supposed to be aware of everything that goes on with our kids, right?

Who in the hell has the time to keep watch on their kids 24/7? I sure don’t - and I’ve only got one kid. It’s not like I’m fortunate enough to be a SAHM! Some of us just can’t afford it. So don’t give me a hard time for not raising my kid “correctly” when you have the luxury to stay at home with your kid all while we have to work overtime!

Hey, if that sounds familiar, come vent with me.

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As I read through a few of the confessions, I laugh. I laugh not because they are funny. I laugh because most of them seem so trivial. But it’s amazing how much we focus on trying to be a perfect parent. But then we slip because we are too tired, too lazy or whatever excuse we can come up with. And when the kid grows up to do drugs, join gangs, talks back, etc, we blame it on that one incident: “When Jr. was 6 months old and on, I didn’t spend enough time with him so now he’s in a gang. And it’s all my fault.”

We should as parents not be so hard on ourselves - I may be hypocritical because I’m pretty hard on myself as well. But perhaps we should learn to relax a little bit and let your little ones find their identity instead of us trying to mold them into who they really aren’t.

PS. I might just change my mind later on this thought! It’s just how I am feeling at this moment in time. :-)

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Enfamil, Come Back!

It wasn’t too long ago when those large 32 ounce Costco sized Enfamil cans fed Little Mochi for a month.  Now, it’s lasting only 2 weeks.  I thought he was supposed to drink less?  Then why does it seem like those cans are emptying out quicker?  Despite the fact that Little Mochi drinks 8 ounces at once, he certainly drinks less frequently per day.

Can anyone tell me why it seems like we are going through more formula powder now?

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Where is Little Mochi?

In the last month or two, I’ve noticed that Little Mochi turns 90 degrees in his crib in the middle of the night.  When I wake up in the middle of the night to check up on him, I’d see him lying there vertically, with his hands and legs spread out.  How comfortable he looks.

Except lately, he’s grown a few inches taller and has adapted to every corner of the crib.  I’d find him crunched in the upper left corner one night, then in the bottom right corner the next.  Strange isn’t it?  How do they even get in those positions in the first place?  It’s like as if someone literally picked them up from where I laid him to sleep and then stuffed him in a corner of the crib.

Of course, he has learned to kick off his blanket now as well.
I  pick him up carefully so that I do not wake him up, and put him in his place.  I then put two blankets on him - crazy me but I’m paranoid about him catching a cold.  Finally, I peck him on his cheeks and bid him goodnight (as if he can hear me in his sleep!).

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A Few Facts About Autism

It’s national autism awareness week!  Here are a few facts about autism:

  1. 1 in every 150 child will be diagnosed with autism.
  2. it is more common than pediatric cancer, diabetes, and AIDS combined.
  3. It is 4x’s more likely to affect boys than girls.
  4. New research enables your child to be diagnosed as early as 6 months.
  5. Pediatricians can easily diagnose your child with something else, thinking your child is just “behind” on reaching his milestones.  So it’s imperative that the parent pushes back and does further screenings for autism since they “know their child best.”

Since autism is so prevalent in today’s society, every little “abnormal” behavior is believed to be a sign of autism.  But the only way you can really tell if your child is autistic is to have him professionally diagnosed.  Contact Autism Speaks for more information or assistance.

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They Sure Grow Fast!

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Growing older and getting into mischief. (Well, not really. Daddy had put him there)

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Loves to rip paper into little pieces. Strange but a great way to quiet him down when he’s crying. Thank goodness he doesn’t put those little pieces of paper into his mouth. He’s not into putting things into his mouth…at least not yet!

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He sure loves his keyboard! Perhaps we can work on his vocal chords as soon as he learns to talk so he can be our next American Idol!

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Little Mochi Breaks Daddy’s Heart

Little Mochi is 9 months old now and still can’t turn over. What he can do, however, is scoot his big fat butt across the floor while sitting up. I guess babies have their own ways of adapting to the environment.

He just got his 9 month immunization shot on Friday. It wasn’t too bad. Just a loud shriek and a few tears this time. He also got a prick on his finger tip to test for his hemoglobin. I guess it’s to measure his iron level. According the Doc, normal is 11 - Little Mochi measured 10.9. Not too bad, right? Then why the heck did the doc tell us to buy Enfamil’s Supplement drops with Iron?

Despite the lack of iron, he is developing quite well, I’d say. When he’s sitting (he has been able to sit on his own for nearly two months now) and wants you to pick him up, he puts both of his hands straight up now. Cries when you walk away, too.

He can’t roll over, and hates being on his belly. But he absolutely loves it when we stand him up, hold him, and walk him around. Actually, he walks us around. He loves the freedom of being able to walk around. As a matter of fact, he thinks he’s Mr. Tough Guy when he’s up and about. Of course, he’s not that tough as soon as I release my hold because he’s right on his tushie again!

But what really breaks his father’s heart is when he reaches his arms out for me when his father holds him. If I don’t hold him, he’ll cry. And when his father grabs Little Mochi back, he’ll cry for me. Do you think he’s getting attached to me?

Uh oh. I’m scheduled to be in SF next week and will be leaving the father with Little Mochi all alone. How is Little Mochi going to handle me being gone for so long since he seems to be attached to me lately. How short of a memory span do 9 month olds have anyway? I don’t want to come home after being away for a week to find that my Little Mochi has forgotten who I am!

Actually, what’s more of a concern is how will my husband be? Will he be able to handle playing both Mom and Dad while I’m gone? I sure hope he doesn’t leave the poor kid in a soiled diaper for more than an hour! Or feed him formula out of his bottle because he doesn’t know how to feed him his oatmeal! Let’s take a poll to see how many times hubbie will call me while I’m in SF!

Any takers?

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